Fakologizing


Remember the Fonz?  He couldn’t admit that he was wrong, could he?  Couldn’t do it.  He tried, and the word, ‘wrong,’ came out as wrhu-uu-uh… It was so foreign to his coolness that he couldn’t admit he was wrong.  Don’t be cool.  Don’t fake amends. Make peace…

9 Fools mock at making amends for sin, but goodwill is found among the upright.
Proverbs 14:9

23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
Matthew 5:23-24

14 For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, 15 by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace, 16 and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility.
Ephesians 2:14-16

Making amends.  How much do you love doing that?  We don’t.  Plain and simple.  In fact, we fake it until we don’t have to make it, don’t we?

Many times we don’t even try to make amends when we wrong other people.  We don’t even think we make mistakes, do we?  And the perennial favourite is when someone says, ‘I’m sorry you feel that way.  I’m sorry that you are offended.  I’m sorry that you are so wrong in interpreting my behaviour that you have labeled it an offense in your mind even though it isn’t true or real. I’m sorry for that.  I’m sorry for you

That’s basically what we’re saying when we fakologize. We put in on the other person…

When we fakologize, we don’t make amends – we mock amends. It’s not making amends, it’s faking amends.

When God says in Ephesians 2 that Jesus is our Shalom – our peace – we ought to take that seriously and apply that truth to our lives.  We really and truly do not have a right to stay unreconciled with our brothers and sisters when God sent Jesus to die for our reconciliation to him and to each other.

Goodwill is found among the upright.  Goodwill is found among the reconciled.  Goodwill is found among those who have been forgiven much.

Which brings me back to me.

I need to gut-check my amends.  If there is any to make, they need to be made.

The priority of maintaining my coolness is subordinate to the importance of reflecting the ministry of reconciliation God has given us in Jesus.

I need to stop being right and start being at peace. And that starts with me…

18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Romans 12:18

16 So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: 19 that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.
2Corinthians 5:16-19

Amen.

Marc Kinna

 

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