What buttons do you have and which friends pour gas on your fire? Figuring this out will help us keep from sinning in angry moments… The snares of a hot temper are obvious. We end up saying things we don’t mean or worse – things we do mean…
24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,
do not associate with one easily angered,
25 or you may learn their ways
and get yourself ensnared.
This is simple and practical advice. It also applies to other traits which are not virtuous. Hang around with criminals and you’ll be at minimum guilty by association and at maximum a future accomplice. We reflect our friends in many ways. Are your friends angry? Hot-tempered?
Lucy and I can both work up a temper in the right moments. The good news is that we typically don’t get worked up at the same time. So we temper each other’s tempers.
The snares of a hot temper are obvious. We end up saying things we don’t mean, and even worse, things we mean… which are mean. When our buttons are pushed, we tend to poke the buttons of others. Anything good come of that? Nope, didn’t think so.
I’ve been doing some reading and reflecting on who pushes my buttons and how. I find that when my integrity is questioned, when my team or family are attacked, and when I don’t feel listened to, my buttons get pushed. Hard.
I’m trying to consider how to see that coming so I can keep the temper down at all times. What buttons do you have and which friends pour gas on your fire? Figuring this out will help us keep from sinning in our angry moments…