The absence of the loved one is felt in every moment in which they were formerly present. Which leaves us in the moment in which we can be embraced by the One who knows us better than anyone and wants to be our comfort and consolation. Turn to him…
“You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you.” (MSG)
“Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.” (NIV)
The Spanish NVI translation says you will be consoled. Comforted is the NIV word. The Message paraphrase says you will be embraced by the One most dear to you. Close to home for us.
Lucy’s companion for the last fourteen years was not me. It was Sarge. Sergeant was our East German Black Shepherd who, in the words of dog people, crossed some rainbow bridge I know nothing about. Tributes poured in about him. Lucy’s friends and family came to the door with cards and flowers. I had a bit of a picture of what it would be like if I passed and if I was liked as much as Sarge.
And now, every moment in the house has something missing. The sound of his dog tags jingling on his collar is gone. There is no one to eat the ends of the cucumber when you make salad. The absence of the loved one is felt in every moment in which they were formerly present.
Lucy needs comfort and a consoling embrace. Me too. I’m the strong one. The more insensitive. And then I confessed that when I was alone with the vet talking about the inevitable, I too broke down. Why? More out of my love for Lucy than my love for Sarge. I loved Sarge, yet I love Lucy more and would give anything for her to be comforted.
To whom to you turn when you have lost what is most dear? There are lots of places to go. People and things and even vices to lean on. You are in the moment in which you can be embraced by the One who is truly most dear to you.
As close as a spouse or a pet or a child or a friend is to us, God is closer. More dear. God is uniquely positioned to embrace you because he knows you better than anyone. Knows why you mourn. God knows what it is that you are missing now. The Father in heaven has lost more than we can ever comprehend.
Not only did he lose every person who has ever lived to the embrace of sin and self, then Father God gave up his own Son to punish him and make it right. Imagine an ounce of that grieving in the heart of the Father. He knows.
Turn to him in your mourning and grief. You will be comforted. You will be consoled. You will be embraced.