The temptation of adultery is based on the grass appearing greener on the other side of the fence. It is our choice to be satisfied at home. Make that choice. Choose to honour God and your marriage vows. Don’t be found straining through the fence to the next field…
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
21 For your ways are in full view of the Lord,
and he examines all your paths.
Proverbs 5:15-17, 21
We were watching a TV show the other week in which one of the main characters was having and affair. Then she found out that her husband had an affair and she was livid. She was off-the-charts angry and she confronted him. Her hypocrisy was invisible to her.
This is one of the problems with adultery. Some of the truths of adultery are invisible to the players. They don’t see the error of their ways or cannot foresee the consequences to themselves or to others. There is, however, someone who sees it all.
Everything is in full view of the Lord, who examines all our paths. All our ways. All our infidelities to him and our partners. God sees all of it. He offers us a better way.
Stick with your own supply. Drink from your own cistern of water. The image is of a personal water supply that sustains you. This isn’t saying, ‘don’t share water with your neighbour if they have none.’ This isn’t even about water.
Our love and our lover are not to be shared with strangers. “Let them be yours alone.” I heard an interview with Rod Stewart the other week, in which he was asked why he was unfaithful to his wife. At the time, he was married to a supermodel. The interviewer stated the obvious. Why would you have an affair when you were married to one of the most beautiful women on the planet? Rod’s answer, “Because the grass is always greener.”
The temptation of adultery is based on the grass appearing greener on the other side of the fence. Most of us have seen animals straining to eat grass through a fence, even though they stand in a field of green grass.
God says, stay in your field. Eat your own grass. Drink your own water. Share it with… no one. If you read the whole chapter, the details of Solomon’s advice make something clear: it is our choice to be satisfied at home. When we are encouraged to rejoice in the spouse of our youth, it is a decision we make. Make that choice. Choose to honour God and your marriage vows.
Even if we think we are invisible, we are not. Not only are we in the sight of God, we are also accountable to him for what we do. The Lord examines our paths. Don’t be found straining through the fence to the next field…